I have always known my friends and family to think of me skinny/fit/in shape, exercise guru, motivated and has most of my stuff together! And yes, that is true to an extent! They of course have other kind words to say about me – but I have heard something along those lines my whole life!
Why am I bringing this up?
Simply to make a point. I don’t mind to be categorized as the above in the slightest. In fact, they are all compliments. However, we are a society of COMPARISON! The internet and its fellow technologies, have changed our generation and for many to come. We can hide behind screens and compare ourselves to others – without even realizing it.
I have found myself doing this the past year or so – and I didn’t realize the profound effect it has had on me until recently. I’d lose an hour of MY time looking at someone else’s life through a ‘snowglobe’! It would effect my mood, how I felt about myself and make me question the direction my life was going?
Am I successful enough in my career? I don’t have that! How did they do it?! Why not me?! I wish I traveled more! Maybe I should wait on that so I can do this!
I wanted to write this post tonight for some encouragement to you and to help enrich YOU!
When reading my blog or looking at my pictures – I hope to portray positive energy, happiness and by no means a ‘cover up’ story! I personally don’t find it appropriate to air your dirty laundry on social media – so I may not post about every hiccup that has happened – but it doesn’t mean they don’t happen!
In the past 8 years I developed a fear of flying, I hate being in the back of a car, I don’t like anticipation of events and overall life sometimes can just be overwhelming for me! But I don’t let it control me. I am that happy, fun, energetic, in shape, crazy runner, motivated person – just not 24/7! You get the point 🙂 I use to feel bad when I was having a bad day or feeling sorry for myself. I have an amazing family, friends, husband, career, house, cat, opportunities, health, etc… What should I feel bad about?! Yet, it was just me being distracted by what I thought others had and not focusing on what was LITERALLY right in front of me and not a cyberworld!
So – how many of you have found yourself asking WHY NOT ME?!
If I could just be more motivated like her, a little skinnier like her, love exercise the way she does or get my life together like that?!
Let me tell you something! I have my own set of insecurities and ‘wish lists’ too!
1. The FEAR of what others will think of me!
2. Being able to build a successful home business so I can be home with my future kids
3. Have the freedom to spend more time with my family and not be ‘tied down’ to a certain schedule
4. Wake up motivated and not have to pump myself up each morning – no it doesn’t always just come to me!
5. Not be so anxious about everything these days! ugh – Don’t ask me why, I just am!
6. The list goes on for days…
Lastly – I figured out why I was comparing myself to others via social media. I was doing it for INSPIRATION! At first I was looking for motivation from others – but I have realized that no one can MOTIVATE me, rather they INSPIRE ME! I wanted to read about what they were doing so I could do it. I knew that if they did, I could! I just needed to REDIRECT my end thoughts into POSITIVE ACTIONS! I am all about HEALTHY HABITS and DAILY CONSISTENT ACTIONS that lead to the bigger picture! So, I developed 6 new ‘HealthHappy’ Habits to use every day to keep me on track!
1. MAKE MY BED
*Just do this. Make even your side of the bed if your spouse is still sleeping.
2. READ FIRST5.ORG
*I am not an avid church goer and I don’t speak about religion with others, however, I do have my faith! I am just more quite about it. A good friend suggested this to me one day and it is a GAME CHANGER! It is about taking the first 5 minutes of your day and reflecting! Just download the app ‘First5.org’ and it will send you a bible verse (short quote) everyday. Read it and reflect for a few minutes every morning. Don’t saturate your mind with social media immediately.
3. BREAK A SWEAT
*Hello!!! This is ME time – ENDORPHIN time – Build yourself up! Be STRONG!
4. SPEND TIME OUTSIDE AFTER WORK
*On a nice day – I go for a walk, weed the garden, sit on front porch – I DO NOT WATCH TV or SCROLL the phone! Take time to smell the fresh air and be grateful for what is right in front of you!
5. TURN OFF ELECTRONICS AT LEAST 1 HOUR BEFORE BED
*Read a book, talk to your spouse or kids, get ready for the next day
*Every night I make sure to focus on my blessings and what I am grateful for. I acknowledge my accomplishments of the day and TAKE A DEEP BREATH!
As hard as this is for me to share these insights – I hope it helps you! I want to inspire you to dig a little deeper…
WORKOUT OF THE DAY! 4/21/16
9 Mountain Climbers/leg
8 Squats with heavier DB weights
7 Jumping Jacks
5 Lunges/leg with heavier DB weights
**Rest 1 minute after each round. Move this as quickly as possible with good form! Repeat 4 times.
Cardio: STAIRS! 12 minutes! Find a stadium, parking deck, your house…GO!